how to be just friends with a guy

I have a few guy friends and some are my bestfriends. A girl and a guy can be just friends if both agreed to it. Here are some tips on to befriend a guy without leading him on according to my experience.

Set your boundaries right from the very beginning

Make it clear that you want to be just friends and not more than that but in time, when the time is right...marrying your bestfriend is sometimes the best decision. Before that happen, ensure both party understand the situation and agree on friendship.

Do not flirt

When we meet someone from the opposite sex, we tend to flirt if we find the guy attractive. But if you wanted to be just friends, avoid gesture that suggest you are flirting. Flatter is okay but not too much, flatter when it is necessary. Avoid wearing something sexy or provocative. Do not always let the guy open the door for you, avoid being with just him for too long and too often, pay for each others meal – do not let him pay for your meal always, avoid touching him or look him directly in the eyes when he speaks – just act casually or nonchalantly but make sure he knows you are listening. Do not fool him into thinking he has a chance to be your boyfriend by not sending the wrong message to him.

Do not use pet name

Call him by his name...avoid pet name or using it in a sentence, eg: "yes, my dear..."

Avoid talking about past relationship or love life

In my opinion, it is okay to confide but don't go all out because if you do, you will be vulnerable and he might think that you need him. Of course, a friend in need is a friend indeed but remember your boundaries. Avoid commenting on his date or girlfriend or the girl that he likes, just let him decide as people learn from mistake if he does make one. Just be there for him if he needs a friend.

Be straightforward

If he cross the boundaries, let him know. Tell him what you can do or cannot do for him as both are from the opposite sex there are things you cannot do that may lead him on. Now and then, remind him how lucky you are that both of you are friends.

us as students hanging out together @aeon.bukit.tinggi

suck-fest

It sucks when you aren't able to go to your friends' wedding... I just cannot stop thinking about it.
But if they are truly my friends, they would understand, I will make it up for the absence. Hope they be there on my wedding~

ABC of Friendship

series of Chicken Soup for the Soul

Day 9: A Photo You Took

candid pic of my friends Una, Mimi and Afiah

This photo was taken during Ramadhan last week. The four of us (I'm not in the photo) just got back from an event in UiTM. We go back pretty late and we're guessing that all the restaurants are fully booked that time. What we did was, we bought our own food at Bazaar PKNS and decided to break our fast near the lake in front of the PKNS building. It was fun, not really comfy but we got each other and we enjoy really enjoy each other company.

Day 8: A Photo That Makes You Angry/Sad

The title says pick a photo that makes you angry/sad...but the photo that I chose does not portray those feelings. I didn't look either angry or sad, in fact, I look extremely happy and goofy.

But this photo make me sad because the girl beside me is one my favourite person, the one that always make me laugh, the one that always cheer me up, I can count on her anytime...

Both of us are busy with our own life now,me with my studies and she with her work. She's getting engage now, but I can't come because I'm still at grandma's for Aidilfitri. I miss her the most...when I look at this photo, I miss her and miss my diploma year back in Dungun, Terengganu.

Day 7: A Photo That Makes You Happy

us together,always

This photo is taken last year with my two fave people, Husna a.k.a Una (left) and Mariana a.k.a Mimi (center) during Aidilfitri. Our faculty organized All-You-Can-Eat buffet of various traditional food of each state in Malaysia. I'm talking about food galore here! There are stalls from each state serving the state's famous dishes. Being food lovers, we munch with all our might. We really had fun, sharing stories, snapping pics, sharing food, joke and play around. When we're together, I feel like no one around us exist because we are so close, so absorbed with one another, laughing at each other's joke. I like this pic very much and thinking of framing it and hang it in my room. Cherish memories are treasured forever...and now, in our final semester (well..er..sorta), we try not talk about it but we realize the end is nearer. I'm madly in love with you guys right now..(it doesnt sound homo does it??LOL).

p/s: mimi and una...altho I always make fun of you guys,but deep down I love you guys very much..haha.geli kan?

dear Ann

I was home at JB for 5 days. Skipped 2 days of classes. I decided not tell tell my friends at JB that I'm home, but they found out anyway after reading my wall in FB.

Ann text me one day with this:

Hey.wat happen?usualy if u dmam u r in -ve em0.wana share?

OMG Ann, you are right, I was depressed the whole week before I was sick. Been crying a lot sumore. Maybe this is what makes me ill inside out. It's not that I don't want to tell you but I just don't want people to know how such a loser I am for not being able to handle this kind of stuff on my own. It's been going on for quite some time.

To Ann,

Thanks a lot buddy. You know me to well. I will take care of myself. If I can't, I can come to you anytime, right?xoxo

Will always love you Ann, you know me best.

kentut dan clash

NOTE: This conversation is in Malay, between the three of us via text message.

Una: Lumrah alam,bila kita susah tiada siapa tolong. Bila kita sepi, tiada siapa yang temankan. Bila kita sakit, tiada siapa yang bertandang. Tapi...bila kita kentut, semua orang pandang...jahat!

Jiji: Kentut attention grabbing dow..

Una: Hakhak~ len kali, kalau orang tanak dengar aku, aku nak kentut je...

Jiji: Aku hormat hobi kau...selamat tinggal Una, thanks for everything. Maaf aku terpaksa putuskan persahabatan kita.

Una: Gila..baiklah..aku juga menghormati keputusan kau. Sesungguhnya aku akan berkentut2 selepas ni kerana terlalu banyak makan durian.

Jiji: Bawak sikit ar..kegilaan aku tu..

Una: InsyaAllah..jika keadaan mengizinkan, aku bawak sebiji untuk kau.

Jiji: Sebiji tau..bukan seculas je. Buat jem sedap kot...

Una: Yolah...nanti aku bawak sebiji. Tetido da..kau buat onar ea..kesian lady gagajah.. (a.k.a Mimi)

I cannot resist, prank si Mimi...dia lurus!hohoho..

Jiji: Mimi, mulai hari ini aku tak berkawan lagi dengan adik kau tu. Aku tak bole ikut cara dia. Sorry. Pasni kau jalan gi kelas dengan dia. Aku bole pegi and balik sorang2. Pape...kau tanya dia. Aku da malas.

Mimi: Kenapa ji? Siapa? Una? Piah?

Jiji: Housemate kau.

Mimi: Kenapa kau cakap macam ni tiba2? Cuba bagitau aku.

Jiji: Malas.

Mimi: Kenapa pasal ape? Kalau rasa aku ni kawan kau, bagitau la aku.

Mimi: Ji..please..kenapa ni?

Jiji: hahahaha...bosan kowt..Una cakap pasni dia nak kentut memanjang. Aku terpaksala putuskan persahabatan. Kau tahan ke??

Mimi: Ji, Una kata coz dia terkentut je kau tanak kawan dia, biar betul la korang...serius k,ridiculous gila la. Jangan main2 dalam hal ni bole...

Opps...Mimi da bengang.

Mimi: Konfius aku korang ni..takkan la pasal tu (kentut) tanak kawan da...entah2 korang saje je..

Una: Hakhakhak~ dia caya dol.. aku pun tipu dia gak. Lurus macam pembaris.

hahaha...Mimi memang lurus macam pembaris...Una pernah joke cakap Dr Sahul Hamid, Naib Canselor UiTM bagi cuti sehari kat student UiTM sebab Spain menang World Cup..Dr Sahul sokong Spain..Mimi pun percaya lantas tak pergi kelas. Adehh...

super crazy fun

I had lots of fun this weekend...not ordinary fun but, SUPER CRAZY FUN!

why?

Because me and my groups of besties have the chance to kill times doing things that we like and enjoy doing together.

We karaoke, we snap pics, we shop, we laugh, we talk, we tell dumb funny jokes...mad love them!

The not-so-best part is I dont feel well but still, I try to make it happen. There were some difficulties but we manage to encounter them with efforts and extreme wants and needs feelings!

NAK SERIBU DAYA! which means, if you really want something badly, you must try in any possible ways to get them done or happen,which we did!

And the result is..............

PRECIOUS FUN TIME MOMENT WHICH STRENGTHEN OUR FRIENDSHIP.

Through thick (endless encounter to make it happen, misunderstandings, sacrifice,etc) and thin (together time)...

drag miss ann out to mall eventhough she's grounded...

grab a bite at MickeyD and karaokaying a bit.

true reason is,exchange juicy stories.

fun time with my BFF...

me and my friends

A friend is someone we turn to when our spirits need a lift.

A friend is someone we treasure for our friendship is a gift.

A friend is someone who fills our lives with beauty, joy and grace.

And makes the world we live in a better and happier place.

Jean Kyler McManus

A friend is someone we know regardless how long, whether it is just yesterday or since kindergarten. A friend is someone that we can rely on when we feel helpless, someone that lend their shoulder for us to cry on and a good listener who really listen.

It is better to have one special good friend that we know we can count on rather than have many friends who we do not know whether we can count on them.

We started having friends since we are in school. We may have someone who we share our lunch together, we play together, sit together in class, share secrets and so on. At that time, we really cherish and appreciate our friend more than we did now. I remember begging mama to buy a present for a friend at school. It was the first time I gave someone a present. It was a music box and it is not expensive but we were children at that time and mothers could not let us buy unnecessary things. I knew that she wanted one because after school, she kept looking at a pink music box that has ballerina twirling in it. I wanted that music box too, when we bought the music box, I had thoughts that maybe I don’t have to give it to her and keep it to myself…but in the end, I gave it to her on her birthday. I received a hug in return that I still remember even though it was a long time ago. Better a memorable hug that I still remember than a music box that will get broken later.yeay me!

I used to have people who hate me when I was in primary school. It was a silly misunderstanding saying that I was stealing her boyfriend, hence I was bestow with a nickname “perampas”. I received letter almost everyday and I usually ignore it as I was more matured than them as I got my period sooner than they did at the age of 9.yes..NINE years old. Later, me and that girl ended up being best friend and only got separated because we went to different middle school. How funny I ended up being good friends with people that other people don’t like. They kept asking me “why did you befriends with her?” and I reply “umm…why can’t i?” later, I realize that my friends distance themselves from me because I become good friends with people that they don’t like. But then, I saw it in a good way because when they separate themselves from me, I realize that Allah SWT has open my eyes and let me see who are my real friends and who are pretending to be one. I ended up having good friends that I still keep in touch till now.yeay me!

But, not all of my good friends I could rely on. I remember I have this one friend who kept boasting telling me that her father is a “Datuk”, that she has several house, have a huge cat house at the back of the back of her house, her brothers and sisters are engineer, doctor and a lawyer. I believed her but later found out that she is an only child, both her parents are quite old, her father is an “imam” and her mother is a housewife. They do not have a huge cat house in their backyard. I was on my way home, riding on a bus and I saw her walking towards a rather not so glamorous house as what she told me. Later, a friend who attended the same kindergarten spill the truth with a back up from another friend who is her neighbor. I was deeply angry and wanted to confront her the next day. But when I got to school, I changed my mind thinking that maybe that is the way she pictured her life and the life that she wanted. I just go on with her lies. At the end of school days, I tell her that I knew about her lies long ago and she denies them profusely. I told her, it’s okay and I still be her friend. She just cries and say sorry. I lost contact with her and someone told me that she has move and married. I still remember her face. She got freckles on her face that makes her look cute and really fair skin.

I lost contact with friends and gain new ones but the new ones will never replace the old ones because they are unique in their own way. CHEERS TO FRIENDSHIP!

Sincerely.

poor baby car..

one of the photo that i decided to upload in facebook.this is the time when the car broke down (merajuk la pulak baby car ni..).we were at PLUS waiting for the car to cool down.everybody was sweating even tho it was at nite.on that day, Feb 8th..we decided to have fun time karaokaying at greenbox,JJ bukit tinggi..since it was a day before my birthday,so they come up with a surprise party for me at that time.although we faced some difficulties on the journey but it was worth it.

Saiful Hifzudeen: sauna!!! hahahaha
Jihan Amalinna: for u only..us are just cool..
Saiful Hifzudeen: bcuz u r just ignoring the hardship situation
Jihan Amalinna: no..im embracing it.thats y im cool with it.poor car meragam tho.
Saiful Hifzudeen: mmg la cool...u just sit back n relax..
Jihan Amalinna: haha..u're the guy kn..so play the good knight in shining armour come to the rescue..
Saiful Hifzudeen: i am..am i
Jihan Amalinna: u r (<< nk ambil hati je k?) Saiful Hifzudeen: mine is mine, u cant tak mine! u kan dah ada hati????
Ida Liyana: uit2!!!ske pic2 ni=))kenangan terindah..hehe,time di mane sepul berpeluh2 1 badan..ngeh~~=p
Jihan Amalinna: saif,wat??excuse me...i didnt mean that!ida,its funny the way u call him sepul..lol
Ida Liyana: i loike too..hehe=))da lame pggil die sepul..saiful x mara kn??=p

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!

p/s: the pics were taken on Feb 8th,a day before my actual birthday

random pictures

in between classes..



fasting month..

on my way to the bazaar near stadium shah alam,i saw this..a line of cloud,fascinating..never see one before

cooking duty..i cooked that mac.abesh tau..

uh~oh

me,hanan and hazwan are heading to KL when the car broke down..hazwan kept saying that the car needs gas but hanan insisted that there are still much gas left for the road and i was sitting at the back busy snapping pictures of myself..LOL..we were stuck in PLUS tol sg besi on smart tag lane.hanan asked fendi,her bf,to fetch some gas anyway..
long story shortened....
the gas meter decided to become stupid (means its broken) and hazwan is right all along..
(actually i hate him for being right all the time..i hate the smug on his face!)


fendi and hazwan are the knights in shining armour for the day..hanan is the mandur..me,snapping this picture..

study group

taken here is me and fida completing our marketing assignment..nas was there too,but she left earlier..
our first time studying at ESSO:on the run
(bukan tempat study yang baik...distracted by customers comin in and goin out)

mari menabung

my housemate,tyrah suka menabung..she save loads of coins and bought herself this cute purple little bear.

kawaii~neh! ^_^

miss fida

i named miss fida as an independent woman with wisdom and vision..(jangan kembang ok cik fida..??)
the reason of my statement is that because it is true.she is a student like us,my classmate to be exact.she is 21 this year but yet she able to manage 4 businesses;network marketing, her family business of wet market, koperasi uitm melaka and Green Apple which she is one of the partner.she managed to get good result and was awarded with Siswi Harapan from the UiTM.she's awesome..
i envy her..(jealousy yang membina) i always tease her, "all work and no play, make fida a dull girl.."she wouldnt mind that..sayang fida..

fida is seen here,making sandwiches

Green Apple booth located at Business Faculty's foyer


curi2 ambil,fida bertungkus lumus study marketing..jangan marah..

pretty faces

... pieces of me ...

... the Hayams clan ...

my room mates and me

~ Kolej Redang 1, Bilik 222 ~

baby ardilla

yesterday went to MRSM muar to visit my adik angkat..she's in form 1 and sgt manja..this is the 2nd time i visit her together with farah and her family.. im surprised she did not cry when we're about to leave, but she looks a bit sad..we hang out at mahkota parade, melaka (cuz theres nothin much to do at muar) to buy her swimming suit, a BRATZ diary and all-about-ZAC EFRON book, at that time SURIA FM crews were in road tour at melaka and we saw diddy and aliff aziz, im not a fan but i like lookin at these 2 cute guys..wink wink

with ardilla

i hav to post this pic cuz i went through lotsa ppl (have to hold my breath or i will faint smelling ppl's sweat and smokers' breath)

anne and farah

this week is so special to me because i was surrounded by friends who cared so much! i had a sad week but i dont have to face it alone because i have anne and farah to support me and lend me their shoulders.. i was so sad, but super anny come to my rescue as soon as she could even though she's cooking at that time..(yes ppl, anne memasak..) and farah come to my house at nite juz to gave me roses and a gift to cheer me up.. im so lucky to have my best of the specialiest (??)best friends forever by my side..

I AM THE LUCKIEST PERSON IN THE WORLD!!

this is the gift that farah gave me...