Love comes in many forms; love of mother to her child, love among best friends, love between 2 persons that usually end up in marriage, love is a meal prepared for you, even a smile or a hello. Love helps personal growth from within and able to carry one through obstacles. One should not receive all the love one can get but also give love back because it is one way to repay the gift of life.
The love I would like to talk about is the love between 2 persons that hopefully will end up with marriage - till death do us part. Commonly, there are 3 stages which are first, you are a friend, then you express your feelings, you become lover, then you are ready to commit, you become married couple. A lover is someone who loves his/her other half in a relationship that they form under mutual wants and needs. Although, some are lucky when it comes to love, others may experience hardships and difficulties for example being in a long distance relationship. It is a relationship that takes place when the people involve in a relationship are separated by a distance. They may get separated over the need to further studies oversea, being deported, the need to travel to various countries on job account - even if there are ways to get connected, you can't really be satisfied unless the person you love is in front of you because you need to touch, smell, see, hear voice, taste the lips...ahem. Most cases, people in this type of relationship falls apart, seeing someone else without the other partner knowledge, grows colder between each other and end up separated. They will become frustrated because of the distance that keeps each other apart and mostly the relationship doesn't work out. They will be disappointed as the love they have for each other turn out not to be so great - most common excuses are:
Let's take break from each other for awhile - which really means, let's take take a break from each other, period.
OR
I'm sorry, I'm not good enough for you, it's not you, it's me - which really means the situation both of them is facing makes it a burden for the other to carry all the way through
But, not all long distance relationship falls apart in the end, there are some end up in marriage or last till the end. There are ways to survive a long distance relationship. In my opinion, the possible ways are:
Make each other clear what both of you are dealing with - are each open to the possibilities, will each stay true to each other.
Ask the question "What are you looking to get, out of this relationship?" - just another relationship, to end up marrying each other, to avoid end up in loneliness, maybe just a sexual need?
Do a lot of communicating - the good side of being in a long distance relationship is that both spend a lot of time communicating rather than short distance couple who spend the majority of their time together going out and doing things. Communicating promotes the understanding growth between each other.
Less arguments as both spend more time with work, family and friends. One will really enjoy the pleasure of seeing one another after a long period of time. You will become more appreciative as you are aware that the time you get to spend with each other is limited.
Able to maintain your individuality - when you spend too much time with another person, your character will slowly change to fit the other person needs.
Help promotes positive emotion about relationship, you will learn to trust as trust is a base to every relationship.
You actually get to miss each other.
Let's make long distance relationship works!
Distance is not for the fearful, it is for the bold. It’s for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love. It’s for those knowing a good thing when they see it, even if they don’t see it nearly enough - article from Oprah mag
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