how to be just friends with a guy

I have a few guy friends and some are my bestfriends. A girl and a guy can be just friends if both agreed to it. Here are some tips on to befriend a guy without leading him on according to my experience.

Set your boundaries right from the very beginning

Make it clear that you want to be just friends and not more than that but in time, when the time is right...marrying your bestfriend is sometimes the best decision. Before that happen, ensure both party understand the situation and agree on friendship.

Do not flirt

When we meet someone from the opposite sex, we tend to flirt if we find the guy attractive. But if you wanted to be just friends, avoid gesture that suggest you are flirting. Flatter is okay but not too much, flatter when it is necessary. Avoid wearing something sexy or provocative. Do not always let the guy open the door for you, avoid being with just him for too long and too often, pay for each others meal – do not let him pay for your meal always, avoid touching him or look him directly in the eyes when he speaks – just act casually or nonchalantly but make sure he knows you are listening. Do not fool him into thinking he has a chance to be your boyfriend by not sending the wrong message to him.

Do not use pet name

Call him by his name...avoid pet name or using it in a sentence, eg: "yes, my dear..."

Avoid talking about past relationship or love life

In my opinion, it is okay to confide but don't go all out because if you do, you will be vulnerable and he might think that you need him. Of course, a friend in need is a friend indeed but remember your boundaries. Avoid commenting on his date or girlfriend or the girl that he likes, just let him decide as people learn from mistake if he does make one. Just be there for him if he needs a friend.

Be straightforward

If he cross the boundaries, let him know. Tell him what you can do or cannot do for him as both are from the opposite sex there are things you cannot do that may lead him on. Now and then, remind him how lucky you are that both of you are friends.

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