coping with grief and loss

This post is specially dedicated to my dear friend who has just lost someone so dear to her...

Losing someone you love is very painful, and it’s something that almost everyone will experience at some point in their lives. Loss that goes unacknowledged or unattended can result in disability. But grief that is expressed and experienced has a potential for healing that eventually can strengthen and enrich life. There is no right or wrong way to grieve but there are ways to make your grieving more complete and more positive.

Helping yourself cope with grief and loss:

Express your feelings in a tangible or creative way.
Write about your loved one in a journal, get involved in a cause or organization that was important to him or her.

Take care of yourself physically.
Get enough sleep, eat sensibly, and engage in regular exercise. Healthy habits will help you with grieving.

Don’t let other people tell you how to feel, and don’t tell yourself how to feel either.
Your grief is your own, and no one else can tell you when it’s time to “move on” or “get over it.” At the same time, it’s okay to be angry at the person who died, to cry every day if you need to.

Plan ahead.
Anniversaries, holidays, and milestones in life can be particularly challenging. Be prepared for an emotional wallop, and know that it’s completely normal. If you’re sharing a holiday or lifecycle event with other relatives, talk to them ahead of time about their expectations and agree on strategies to honor the person you loved.

Others that may help you generate ideas about how to manage your feelings of grief.

Talk to family or friends
Seek counseling
Read poetry or books
Engage in social activities
Exercise
Eat healthy, good foods
Take time to relax
Join a support group
Listen to music
Be patient with yourself
Let yourself feel grief

TO ONE IN SORROW

Let me come in where you are weeping, friend,
And let me take your hand.
I, who have known a sorrow such as yours, can understand.
Let me come in -- I would be very still beside you in your grief;
I would not bid you cease your weeping, friend,
Tears bring relief. Let me come in -- and hold your hand,
For I have known a sorrow such as yours,
And understand.

-Grace Noll Crowell

source: HELPGUIDE

P/S: i will always be there for you.i'll be the most loyal listener,i will lend my shoulder for you to cry...i'll help you get your happy face back no matter how long it takes.i'll let you cry out loud so that i'll be there to comfort you because you are so dear to me and losing someone so very much dearly is so hard to cope by yourself.

Alfatihah...